Monday, January 7, 2013

Selfish?

I have been thinking about starting my career here soon. I know that being 36 weeks pregnant and not knowing how my life will change in the next few weeks is not the "perfect" time to make that decision. However, I feel like I am getting to the point to where I need to start looking into our futures as a family so I can help provide for our children when they are older. Retirement, college funds, first cars, and they only get more expensive the older they get.

Mr. Man and I have been discussing it for a while. I have to admit that I am very excited to start my career; however, I really, really, really enjoy staying home with my children. It's a hard decision, especially when there is no financial burden or any thing else to give more guidance.

A little background information is that I have been unemployed since March of 2008. I quit my job as an Eyewear Specialist to prepare for our overseas move that summer. When I arrived in England, I refused to work at the commissary, BX, and CDC. And I really wanted to start my degree program. I started my degree program and doubled up on classes so I could finish by the time we left England. The thought was when we went back to the states, I would be prepared to find a job and start my career. While being in England, we decided we loved being overseas. We wanted to stay longer, and that is what we were granted. My thoughts at the time on my career was that most people don't start their careers until their late 20s and since I was so young, I still had time. I do feel this way, and I will explain more.. this is where the selfish comes in.

Living in Italy does not provide very many professional opportunities for spouses and their careers. You are not allowed to have home businesses. Italian laws. I started up the business of making hair bows, children's clothing, and crocheting. However, that took a huge dip when we moved. I still do it for returning customers, but no more advertising and no more selling for a profit. I also started selling Barefoot Books while in England. I absolutely adore their books and found that A did, too. It was a great opportunity, but again - no advertising and no using the post office to mail off things or receive them.

When we got here, I didn't care about any of that. I was perfectly happy with the simple fact that I was going to be granted my dream - continuing to be a stay at home mom. Little did I know that I would start feeling like I was getting old and time was ticking away. Mr. Man is in support of whatever I choose, and that I am thankful. It gives me more options, less stress, and the freedom to make sure I am happy with whatever I choose to do.

While searching for these opportunities and thinking about my options, I came across the idea of distance learning. Being an instructor for an online university. I knew I wanted to continue my education if I wasn't going to work. That was a given. But I was having a hard time deciding if I should get my Master's in Elementary Education or continue with other Bachelor programs for other accreditions with focuses for teaching. After all, I am qualified for middle school as well. Most schools require that you have a qualified focus when you are hired since middle school teachers teach a specific subject. Thinking about this worried me some because I wanted to concentrate on things that I already had a huge lead way in  - like art, physical education, and special education.

While I was in England and completing my degree, I had an eye opener to these areas in both elementary and middle school. They are starting to phase out. Schools are moving away from PE, recess, art, and other areas. Their focus is on the core curriculum. After thinking about this, I realized that it may not be worth it in the long run since teachers are required to include those areas in their classroom anyway.

But then there was the thought of, "I really just want to stay home with my babies." That is where Distance Learning came in to play. I wanted to get my Master's and getting my Master's in Elementary Education would only give me the opportunity to progress in the school system - principal, supervisors, etc. But in order to do that, you have to have experience in the lower positions - like teaching. Well, duh. Makes sense. But who says that I want to be a supervisor, principal, or superintendent. Well, put all this together and VOILA! Master's in Adult Education and Training! DUH! Why didn't I think of this before?!

After doing some research, I found that this Master's Degree would give me the flexibility to teach online for a university and also give me the accreditation to do any wellness and fitness programs for adults. Umm, hello.... Not sure if I ever blogged about this, but I have been going back and forth about getting certified to be a personal trainer or nutritionist or wellness coordinator. This fits ALL categories  plus provides the opportunities for me to work from home and stay with my babies.

The next step was to see what is required for online teaching - the qualifications. One (and the hardest one for me) is two years in a professional work environment. With that said, I have to get a job and work for two years in order to even be considered to teach online. Well, back to finding a job and what to do.

I started searching for job availability. My problem is that I am very picky. I want something that will enhance my experience and knowledge in my chosen career path. Not something to just get me by. The only things available to me are right now and open through the summer is 1- teacher's aid, 2- child development center leader, and 3- substitute teaching.

Obviously my first choice would be the teacher's aid because I would be allowed to be in the classroom and assist a teacher without all the extras of actually being the teacher. Good way to get my foot in the door. The next two options I see as equal. The CDC position would be great. It requires my degree. The pay isn't the best, but it would be another great opportunity to getting my foot in the door. My two degrees are in Child Development and Elementary Education. However, I would work year round. That would suck. As far as substituting goes, I love the idea. It would be great. However, it's not permanent - salary - nothing is guaranteed. But I would have summers off. So now what?

Here is where I am stuck. If I do go to work, it will be once Baby E is 6 months old, so at the end of summer. The next is I really don't want to work year round. Selfish? I really want to be able to continue our travels and enjoy being overseas while we can. But I also would rather something more guaranteed. Sigh. What to do? Decisions, decisions.

Any advice, tips, recommendations, thoughts?


1 comment:

  1. What I can say being in a similar situation in the states is follow your heart in what you think is right for you and your family. Hubby and I have decided that we want one of us to be home with the children when they are home. Right now that means me because he is the major bread winner. Once the youngest is in school that might be a time I will look at going back to work as a teacher or sub or whatever.
    Now that doesn't mean I haven't explored my option as far as working from "home" or part time.
    We have discussed that if you get overseas I want the flexibility to travel and experience everything we can. If that means I don't work so be it.
    Honestly what I can say is sit down and talk about what is important to you and your family. make a list or whatever you have to do. It also helps to remember that some decisions are permeant. If you try for subbing and you hate it then you can always take your name off the list.

    If you want to know more about my specific situation then you can gladly email me at Shallowrootsliving@yahoo.com

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